Talk twenty six.
Sydney, 12th January
- It was your culinary success when you invited the whole family of Marta’s to lunch.
- Marta, Phillip, Elliott, Colleen, Patrick, Lisa, Greg, and Carina are our Australian family now.
- But only Marta is Polish!
- It’s irrelevant. Marta is a daughter of my close cousin Ela’s. Phillip – Marta’s life partner and his immediate family are Euro-Asians. They all have mixed British, Dutch and Indian blood. Beautiful people.
- They warmly hosted us at their home in Sydney.
- My lunch was a small return of the hospitality.
- Go on and boast with what you prepared for them.
- We did the shopping in a huge fish market, when I almost got dizzy of the diversity of fish, oysters and other shellfish. For lunch we had oysters (half a dozen per person), mussels (unlimited) a in celery sauce, an a big grilled sea fish with butter and garlic sauce.
- A big peace for everyone. I didn’t let you persuade me to eat the oysters, though.
- You should regret that.
- We’ve been taking good-bye to Sydney for two days now. We are sorry to be leaving.
- Besides, today we are celebrating your birthday in a great company.
- Sharron and Wayne showed us Sydney which regular tourists hardly ever get to know.
- We saw a beautiful residential area where each house has a spectacular view over the bay.
- They also took us to the beaches. They chose two of them. Obelisk[3] is a nudist gay beach. The other one called Cobblers[4] - for nudist families.
- Where could we see more gays?
- They didn’t wear any badges. Too bad.
- Our Australian couple (both over forty) are keen naturists and they frequently go to such beaches.
- Besides, the beaches are very close to their house. It was a bit odd for me to see them run around the house naked when we dropped in for a drink before dinner in town.
- I didn’t notice any embarrassment in you. Did you enjoy your birthday dinner at the Thai place Pink Peppercon?
- The service, namely, our waiter and cook impressed me so much that I don’t remember what we had for dinner.
- This was Sharron’s favourite restaurant and she really wanted us to meet that exceptional waiter.
- Extremely funny, smiling and warm. He must’ve been gay!
- He was. For sure he still is. He also is a ball dance dancer.
- He’d entertain us all the evening speaking quickly and a lot in his Thai English. Moreover, he had braces on his teeth, so I didn’t have time to concentrate on what I had on my plate because I was trying to make sense out of what he was saying.
- Sharron didn’t always understand him, either, but we all had fun.
- Besides, the birthday wine which we bought, was great!
- Enough of talking for today, let’s do our bags. In some hours we are flying off to Fiji.
- You have to complete the Jarek story off and his ties with Tomek.
- If you insist. Now, in turn, we have to go back in time to the year 1997. After four years of our life with Jarek, our mutual patience ran out.
- Relationships are based on patience?
- Yes, they do. When a sudden feeling initiated by enchantment fades down and the frenzy of bodies is over, there’s an arrangement left, which demands compromise and patience.
- What happened that they didn’t last any longer?
- Before we decided with Jarek to move in together, some friendly people would ask me whether I was sure what I was doing. They tried to warn me not to take any hasty steps. The warnings didn’t discourage me because there was a strong desire in me to live a new life after the previous difficult years. I was ready to start the new life with Jarek, even though it would be short-lasted!
- What do you consider a shot-lasted?
- One, two, three years. Mine with Jarek lasted four. Out of those four years, the last one wasn’t sweet but I don’t regret anything. Those weren’t bad years.
- So, what happened?
- I realized pretty soon that Jarek never really loved me. Unfortunately, he himself realized it far too late. With the decision of moving to Szczecin, he made his life more complicated that it had been before. On the one hand, he felt good by my side, and on the other hand he lacked freedom. Unfortunately, he didn’t take much care of his future. He neglected his studies, made debts.
- Who made the decision of the parting?
- When we emotionally were eventually far away from each other, there an episode took place which sealed the end. He allowed himself, in my absence, to invite someone home for an evening meal. With breakfast.
- Do I know him?
- The episode had little or no importance in my relationship with Jarek. Accidentally (or not accident-tally?) the man appeared later on in my and your life. We’ll talk about him soon. It was that doctor from Gorzów – Havran!
- The same Havran who?...
- Yes, the same!
- Good. We’ll have to talk about him.
- Jarek had a place to go back to. He had a flat of his own in Wrocław. He had nobody to go back to, though. After a quite turbulent period when all the hidden truth got revealed, we came to a conclusion it was time we parted. I let him stay at my place and work for PROGRESS until he himself decides to go back to Wrocław. So it happened two years later, in autumn 1999.
- After two years! Was he seeing Tomek during that time?
- I guess he was. But Jarek was a free man and he didn’t have to inform me about it. I suppose they’d be meeting up in Szczecin gay clubs. I think they both wanted to get relieved from me as their problem, reassuring each other not having done anything wrong, as the whole evil in their lives was caused by me.
- By you?
- Yes. They both had a strong character feature never allowing them to admit their own guilt.
- Who is it easy for to admit their own guilt?
- For those who have moral courage and a high sense of personal dignity.
- Did they lack such features?
- I’m not going to pass any judgments on them.
[1] Obelisk Beach Sydney
[2] Cobblers Beach Sydney
[3] Obelisk Beach Sydney
[4] Cobblers Beach Sydney
